Sex myths debunked, well done!
Sex myths, misconceptions, and old wives’ tales are still popular in today’s modern society. Too many people never receive good qualitative and informative sex education. That means that a lot of people believe things that just aren’t true about sex. This leads to bad sex, shame, and sometimes, disease and illness. Make sure you know the truth about sex instead of the myths. Let’s start demystifying them.
Myth #1: Too Much Sex is Unhealthy
One of the worst sexual myths out there is that you can have too much sex. Wrong! Sex is a basic function for the vast majority of people. Sex between consenting partners benefits you physically and mentally. It creates more intimacy in your relationships. And, most importantly, it feels good and makes you feel good. Sex is natural, and as long as it doesn’t interfere with your life, there’s no such thing as “too much.”
Myth #2: Your Vagina Will Get Loose
How many times have we heard the snide joke about “sluts” with loose vaginas? Every vagina is a different shape and size, but they’re not like the elastic in an old pair of underwear. They’re not going to wear out with use. The vagina stretches and expands to accommodate penises and children (as well as any sex toy or other body part you choose to penetrate yourself with). When not pushing out children or enjoy sexual pleasure, it contracts down to its natural size. Big penises and lots of sex aren’t going to make your vagina loose!
Myth #3: Sex with Condoms Doesn’t Feel Good
You know what doesn’t feel good? A sexually transmitted infection (STI) you got from or passed onto a partner as well as unplanned pregnancies. Condoms help prevent both of these things, so first remember how important they are. Second, there are multiple styles of condoms — for men and women. Finding one that fits well and feels good is less difficult than 100 years ago when the only choice was condoms made of sheep intestines.
Find a condom that feels good for both of you, and stay safe when you have sex. Don’t reuse it, and for the most effective form of contraception, pair it with a secondary form of birth control — pills, IUD, or another method. And no, you shouldn’t double up on your condom to be “extra safe.” It doesn’t work that way.
Myth #4: Only Men Have Wet Dreams
Society either may joke about men and their wet dreams, but it’s important to realize that anyone can have one. It’s possible to have a sexy dream, orgasm in your sleep, and wake up wondering why you’re so turned on. You might recall your dream vividly and know exactly what happened. It’s more common than people realize, and tied to your sexual fantasies that manifest themselves in your dreams. You don’t have to worry that you’re a freak if you have one. As long as it feels good, enjoy the pleasure and the aftermath as much as you can.
Myth #5: Women Don’t Masturbate
Are you laughing hysterically yet? Of course women masturbate. But the myth is out there because female masturbation is still considered dirty and taboo by many. The incorrect thinking goes that if you’re masturbating, you’re either lonely and desperate or your man can’t satisfy you. Neither is true, and women masturbate for all kinds of healthy, natural reasons — including because it just feels really damn good. Masturbation offers a lot of benefits for the mind and body. It can ease tension, help you sleep, make you feel good, and simply be a way to enjoy yourself.
Myth #6: Masturbate Too Much and You Won’t Be Able to Orgasm Anymore
Is your head spinning? First women “don’t” masturbate, but if we do it too much, we won’t be able to orgasm anymore. It’s hard to keep up with all the myths about our sexuality. The only time you can “masturbate too much” is if your masturbation habit interferes with your life and relationships. Otherwise, it’s a great way to enjoy a round of solo sex and learn about your body and what you enjoy. Women who masturbate have a better understanding of their own desires and have more orgasms. Big Os! But masturbation isn’t just something you can do alone. It’s perfectly healthy and great for your relationship if you masturbate with your partner too.
Myth #7: You Can’t Get Pregnant on Your Period
While this myth is wrong, it’s an understandable one. Your period occurs when your body sheds the lining of your uterus and an unfertilized egg. What people don’t understand is that the 28 days cycle isn’t perfect for many women, so you can shed one egg and release another very quickly. Sperm can live in your vagina for up to five days, so if a strong swimmer comes across an egg in that time, you can definitely get pregnant. If you want to avoid that, make sure you and your partner discuss contraception options.
Myth #8: You Can’t Get Pregnant if You’re on Top During Sex
The functions of your body don’t stop working just because you change sexual positions. Being on top during sex in the cowgirl or reverse cowgirl position won’t reduce your chance of getting pregnant. Sperm swim very quickly, and they’re microscopic in size. Once you have unprotected sex, if enough sperm find an unfertilized egg, you’ll get pregnant. Oh, and while we’re talking about sexual positions — you can’t determine your baby’s gender by the sexual position you use, either. Sex does magical things to our mind and body, but it’s not actual magic. Mind you!
Myth #9: Only Men Watch Porn
In this myth, not only do men watch all the porn, all porn is evil and detrimental. Is there bad and problematic porn out there? Of course there is. But women can and do watch porn, and many are empowered sexually by it. Ethical porn, queer porn, and porn made by and for women are gaining more popularity, and women are enjoying the hell out of it. Porn can help you explore your fantasies, find what turns you on, and give you great fodder for masturbation or sex with a partner. Watching porn is no different than reading erotica or listening to erotic audiobooks.
Myth #10: Sex Hurts the First Time for All Women
Can sex hurt? Yes. Does it always hurt the first time for every woman and is there always this huge blood stain? No. When sex does hurt, it’s often due to a lack of experience and a serious lack of lubrication. First-timers don’t always know what to do, and if your partner doesn’t know either or is inconsiderate, it can lead to an uncomfortable experience. Having said that, it’s true that some women experience chronic pain during sex for a variety of reasons, including conditions like vaginismus.
There are things you can do to minimize any discomfort during sex. Masturbate and learn what turns you on. Prolong foreplay and the build-up to penetration — this will help increase your natural lubrication. Use lube if your body doesn’t produce enough. Try different positions to find what’s most comfortable for you. If you continue to experience pain during penetration, talk to a doctor.
Myth #11: You Don’t Need Foreplay
For some people, foreplay is everything you do before penetration. For others, it’s just how they have sex. But if vaginal penetration is the kind of sex you want to have, you should never skip foreplay. All the things you do before penetration help you get into the mood for sex and get your body ready for penetration. Kissing, cuddling, and being touched and licked all contribute to arousal and intimacy. Without this it can be difficult for your body to become functionally ready for penetrative sex. Your vagina will not relax, and you won’t produce natural lubricant. Not only does foreplay serve a functional purpose, it also feels good.
Myth #12: You Only Have a Few Erogenous Zones
If you think only your mouth, breasts, vulva, and inner thighs are your erogenous zones, you’re missing out. Yes, those are the most common spots and when touched just right, it feels amazing. But your entire body can turn you on. Some people really enjoy their back being rubbed or a light touch on their wrists or on the inside of their elbow. Others enjoy a touch on the back of their knees or their calves. And the biggest erogenous zone of all is the mind. For many women, if you’re not mentally aroused, the sex isn’t all that great. Don’t stick to just a few moves on a few body parts. Every inch of your body can turn you on with the right kind of stimulation.
Myth #13: You’ll Be Too Tired for Sex After a Workout
This is either an excuse not to go to the gym so you have “energy” for sex or it’s an excuse for not having sex. Either way, it’s not true. Don’t believe the myth that a workout burns so many calories that you’re too tired to fuck. After a workout, you may feel refreshed and awake. All that movement causes oxygen to flow to every part of your body including your genitals. At this point, you are likely to be more easily stimulated and orgasm quicker. Sex only burns a minimal amount of calories so you won’t be too weak when you’re done, either. It may be a fun reason to skip the gym, but sex can’t replace your workout if you want to lose weight or get fit.
Myth #14: Being Drunk Makes Sex Better
All getting drunk does is lower your inhibitions. In reality, alcohol is a depressant so you’re unable to react as quickly, and your body won’t respond in the same way. Guys can find that it takes longer to become erect if they’re too drunk. It’s also impossible to truly consent to sex if you’ve had too much to drink.
There’s nothing wrong with having a drink or two and getting tipsy. It may help you relax enough to tell your partner exactly what you want them to do to you. But drink too much, and you won’t be able to enjoy the moment like you would sober. Your judgement is impaired, and so is your memory. How good can sex be if you don’t remember anything about it the next day?
Myth #15: No Symptoms Means You Don’t Have an STI
Just because you don’t see any symptoms of an STI on yourself or your partner, doesn’t mean you might not have one. Some STIs, like chlamydia and gonorrhea may never show any symptoms. The only way to know that you’re not accidentally passing on an infection to your partner — or getting one — is to get tested regularly.
Having an STI doesn’t mean you can’t have sex. It simply means you’ll need to take extra precautions, especially during a flare up. Always use protection during sex, especially if you don’t know the sexual history of your partner. Remember, STIs can be transmitted through oral sex, too. Use dental dams as a form of protection.
If we can all stop believing unscientific myths, we’d all have a lot more fun during sex. Make sure you’re not letting these myths cause you harm or kill your sex life. Share this useful information with friends [CLICK TO TWEET] or leave your comments below.