Play it safe and don’t get caught!
Why would or wouldn’t you attempt outdoor sex? Having sex outdoors, in public, where you could be caught at any moment is considered one of the most daring sexual things a couple can do together. Think about it. Sex is usually kept private, covered up, and hidden away. And here are two people just doing it, right out in the open! It’s enough to scandalize people.
It’s also something that really turns a lot of people on. Some couples want the adrenaline rush from almost or possibly getting caught. Others just love to try new, adventurous things during sex. Having sex in public rarely just “happens” like you see in a romantic movie or even porn. Some pre-planning, even if it’s just taking a look at your current surroundings, is important to make sure you have a good time.
If you don’t take the time to get yourself ready and think about what’s going to happen, you could get caught, be arrested, and have to explain to a judge exactly why you couldn’t keep your clothes on in public. Yes, there’s a real risk of being caught, and it’s no fun if you do.
No matter how rebellious you’re feeling, protect yourself and your partner by planning ahead and being careful. In the end, a bit of preparation will make the entire experience better for both of you, even if getting caught isn’t a concern.
Figure Out Where You’ll Have Sex
The first thing to do is figure out where you want to have sex. Look for a secluded area that’s fairly hidden. On the chance that you’re caught, you also want an easy escape route. Ideally, choose a spot with no chance of anyone walking by or where passersby are highly unlikely. This is the 21st century, so you also have to think about closed-captioned cameras. Security is everywhere and, technically, sex in public or outdoors is illegal. If you’re choosing a very public space, look for cameras and avoid them.
You can choose a spot at random or a place that has deep meaning for you. Do you love the idea of having sex in the grass or being bent over a bench? Is it the thrill of actually or nearly being caught that turns you on? Do you have a sexy fantasy involving the great outdoors? There’s no right or wrong reason for picking a place, just make sure it’s as safe as possible and able to handle what you have in mind.
Here are just a few ideas of where you may have outdoor or public sex:
- Garden or public park
- Field or forest
- Public transportation: plane, train, bus
- Taxi or Uber
- Public bathroom
- Movie theater
- School or university
- Fitting room in a store
- Swimming pool
- Roof top
- Backyard – porch, trampoline, or deck
Check the Weather
This sounds mundane and boring but check the weather for your planned spot before you get there. Are you planning on strictly outdoor sex? Make sure it’s not going to rain or snow on you. That’ll ruin a good time fast. Are you on vacation and haven’t paid attention to the weather reports? Make sure you don’t have a tornado, hurricane, or blizzard headed your way.
On a hot, summer day, bumping and grinding might be the last thing you want to do. And on a rainy day, any lube you’re using will likely get washed away. To have the best chance of a sexy, hot time, plan your outdoor adventure for good weather. Or pick a spot that’s indoors.
Make Do With Your Surroundings
If you want perfection, book a luxury hotel or stay home. (Even then, though, perfection is no guarantee). With public and outdoor sex, beggars can’t always be choosers. In a field or backyard, you’ll likely encounter bugs and creepy-crawlies. In a public bathroom or on a plane, you’re dealing with the smell of everyone who was there before you.
If it all just seems too gross, pick another location or try another time. But outdoor sex is about being on the edge and getting a little (or a lot) dirty and naughty. Breathe through your mouth and remember any insects you come across are more afraid of you than you are of them. Remind yourself that this is supposed to be an adventure.
Pick Your Position Wisely
Some of the places you might pick may provide plenty of room to get into whatever sexual position you want. The open field on a blanket, the grass in the backyard, and your office floor offer plenty of options. Missionary, cowgirl, doggy, standing in corner, bent over a tree – in open spaces, you can do nearly anything you want.
But what about a dark movie theater or the public bathroom at the train station? Your position has to fit both the space and your physical capabilities. If you can’t lift your leg up or your partner can’t lift you for too long during sex, don’t force yourself. Do the position that makes you both feel good in a way that won’t cause injury. The quickest way to turn your outdoor sex adventure into a nightmare is to get hurt.
Prepare for Your Outdoor Sex Fun
We’ll keep it repeating for everyone in the back: Don’t assume that the outdoor sex in your fantasy is how it’s going to happen. Because it won’t. Preparation makes the entire experience much better. Before you have sex in public, prepare for it. Not all great sex is spontaneous. Much of the time, it requires forethought and a plan.
Make sure you have a towel to clean up the mess, as many condoms as you think you’ll need, plenty of lube, a sex toy if you want it, and even an extra set of clothes in case there’s a mess everywhere. If you know you’re looking for a dirty spot or you’ll be outside, make sure you have a mat or blanket to put down. You don’t need to pack a suitcase and carry it around until you get busy. But keep an “emergency sex pack” in your car or at the office. You never know when it will come in handy.
Plan Your Exit Strategy
Part of the fun, for some people, is the possibility they might get caught. But the reality of getting caught having sex in public is much different. The police will likely get called. You could get arrested – usually for public nudity or indecent exposure. And if there were kids close by, it’ll be even worse. You don’t want to explain to your boss, friend, roommate, or anyone else why you’re in jail or why you need bail.
Before you get naked, check the exits. How will you get away and where does that door lead? Do you have time to get all your clothes back on or should you stay mostly dressed for a quicker getaway? It may sound strange, but these are all things to think about before you get caught up in the moment. Once you’ve got a plan, have fun and enjoy yourself, but always know how you’ll get out of there when someone catches you.
Go For It
At a certain point, there’s only so much planning you can do. Coming up with an ideal location, getting your stuff together, and fantasizing about what positions you’ll enjoy only gets you so far. The next step is to put your plan in action and jump your lover in that seedy restaurant bathroom or on the private beach when you go on vacation.
You probably won’t get the perfect opportunity, so go for good enough. Wait for the space to be clear and your partner to be willing, then grab their hand and drag them off for some sexy fun. Maybe you never do it again after this one time or maybe you become addicted to the danger of outdoor sex. But you’ll never know what you want until you try it the first time.
Outdoor sex isn’t something to be taken lightly. The chances of getting caught if you’re not paying attention are great, and there will be consequences if you do get caught. But that doesn’t mean you can’t try it out for yourself. Indulge in kinky fantasies of being watched or caught. Add some adventure to your boring routine. Whatever your reasons are, if public sex turns you on, it’s something to consider for the future. With a good strategy and a little planning, you can have the time of your life — even if it’s in the middle of a public place. Remember to keep this in your sex bucket list and find opportunity to fulfill this sexual fantasy soon! [CLICK TO TWEET] now or leave comments below. Let’s get adrenaline pumping fast, people!